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Why Lube Matters: A Sex‑Therapy‑Informed Guide to Using Lubrication (and When It Helps)

Couples Therapy, Sex Therapy /

In sex therapy, one of the first topics that surprises many people is lube—short for lubrication. It might seem like a small detail, something you pick up at a drugstore or forget in a drawer. But in reality, lube can profoundly change how people experience intimacy, connection, and comfort during sexual activity. The Role of […]

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Understanding Nontraditional Grief: When Loss Doesn’t Fit the Expected Story

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What is nontraditional grief? When most people think of grief, they picture mourning a clear, traditional loss—like the death of a loved one. Yet grief often appears in less recognized ways. Nontraditional grief, sometimes called disenfranchised grief, happens when we experience a loss that others may not view as significant or worthy of mourning. These

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Setting Healthy Boundaries: Practical Advice for Couples, Families, and Individuals

Couples Therapy, Family Therapy, Individual Therapy /

In therapy, we often say that healthy boundaries are an act of self-respect. They protect our time, energy, and emotional well-being—and they create strong, balanced relationships. Yet for many people, the word boundaries can feel intimidating. Where do we even start? How do we set them without guilt or conflict? Whether you’re working on relationships

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Empowering Connection and Clinical Excellence: AASECT Supervision and Sex Therapy in Seattle

Couples Therapy, Sex Therapy /

At Steffen Counseling Services, we are proud to share that our practice owner, Brittany Steffen, LMFT, has officially been approved as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor. This represents years of advanced education, clinical experience, and dedication to helping both clients and clinicians deepen their understanding of sexual health and intimacy. What Is AASECT Sex

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Valentine’s Day Pressure: Understanding the Emotional and Relationship Expectations of the Season

Couples Therapy, Sex Therapy /

Valentine’s Day is marketed as a celebration of love, connection, and intimacy—but for many people, it brings more pressure than pleasure. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, this time of year can amplify feelings of inadequacy, loneliness, or tension as cultural expectations collide with personal realities. The Social Script of Valentine’s Day Each February,

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A Therapist’s Toolkit: Inside the World of Emotion Regulation Therapy

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Ever wonder how therapists stay calm, centered, and emotionally balanced — even during tough moments? The answer lies in emotion regulation therapy skills: tools we don’t just teach our clients, but actively use ourselves. At Steffen Counseling Services, we view emotion regulation therapy as a collection of strategies that help people understand, manage, and respond

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What If I Mess Up? How to Repair When Dating Someone With Sexual Trauma

Couples Therapy /

You’ve been dating someone with sexual trauma you care about deeply, and things were going well—until a casual touch, a certain word, or even a well-meaning question brought everything to a sudden halt. Your partner froze, pulled away, or left the room. Your heart sinks. You didn’t mean to hurt them. Now what? The moment

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Understanding Referrals to a Higher Level of Care: What It Means and What to Expect

Couples Therapy, Family Therapy /

When you work with a therapist, their goal is to help you heal and grow through the level of care that fits your needs. Sometimes, that care may include stepping into what’s called a higher level of care in therapy. While it can sound intimidating, this step is actually a proactive and supportive way to make

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