Compulsory sexuality is the often-unspoken belief that everyone is supposed to experience sexual attraction, desire, and interest in sex—and that these experiences should look a certain way. While this assumption is deeply embedded in many cultures, it can be harmful, especially for individuals whose experiences fall outside these expectations. At Steffen Counseling Services, we specialize […]
Polyamory and consensual non-monogamy (CNM) are becoming more visible and more widely discussed, but visibility doesn’t always come with clarity. Many couples are curious about opening their relationship, yet not all motivations set them up for success. Understanding why you want to explore polyamory is one of the most important steps in determining whether it
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Sex is often talked about as something that should feel natural, pleasurable, and connecting. But for many people, sensory experiences during sex—like touch, sound, smell, or even visual input—can feel overwhelming, uncomfortable, or distracting. If that’s true for you, you’re not alone, and there’s nothing “wrong” with you. At Steffen Counseling Services, we often work
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Make Your Marriage Unbreakable Planning a wedding is exciting, but preparing for marriage is about much more than choosing a venue or writing vows. Premarital therapy gives couples a chance to strengthen their relationship before marriage by building communication skills, exploring shared values, and talking through the topics that matter most in long-term partnerships. At
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If you’re exploring kink or BDSM, you’ve probably heard the term “aftercare.” It’s often mentioned as a best practice but in reality, it’s much more than that. Aftercare is a core part of safe, consensual play, and for many people, it’s nonnegotiable. For individuals and partners experimenting with a kink, understanding aftercare is often one
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Intimacy is often misunderstood as something purely physical or sexual, but in reality, it’s much broader and more meaningful. Understanding the different types of intimacy can help individuals and couples build stronger, more fulfilling relationships. At Steffen Counseling Services, we often work with clients who want deeper connection but aren’t sure what’s missing. The answer
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Signs of desire show up in so many quiet ways before anyone says, “We should have more sex.” In fact, for a lot of couples, sex isn’t actually the problem. Instead, sex is the place where disconnection, stress, and old hurts eventually become too hard to ignore. Desire Is About More Than “Enough Sex” In
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Curiosity about kink or BDSM can be a powerful part of intimacy and self‑exploration, yet many people feel confused, ashamed, or afraid of judgment when they start to notice these interests. Our culture often sends mixed messages about sexuality, framing kink as risky or unhealthy rather than recognizing it as a valid form of expression
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At Steffen Counseling Services, we are proud to share that our practice owner, Brittany Steffen, LMFT, has officially been approved as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor. This represents years of advanced education, clinical experience, and dedication to helping both clients and clinicians deepen their understanding of sexual health and intimacy. What Is AASECT Sex
Valentine’s Day is marketed as a celebration of love, connection, and intimacy—but for many people, it brings more pressure than pleasure. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, this time of year can amplify feelings of inadequacy, loneliness, or tension as cultural expectations collide with personal realities. The Social Script of Valentine’s Day Each February,
