Signs of desire show up in so many quiet ways before anyone says, “We should have more sex.” In fact, for a lot of couples, sex isn’t actually the problem. Instead, sex is the place where disconnection, stress, and old hurts eventually become too hard to ignore. Desire Is About More Than “Enough Sex” In […]
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We’re thrilled to announce that Sage Robins and Aishleen O’Brien, therapists at Steffen Counseling Services in Seattle, are both a certified Prepare/Enrich Facilitators! This certification expands their ability to support couples through structured premarital counseling and relationship enrichment sessions built on a research-driven framework. What Is Prepare/Enrich? Prepare/Enrich is one of the most widely used
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Relationships today are more diverse than ever. While many people choose monogamy, others find that different relationship structures better reflect their values, identities, and needs for connection. Terms like open relationship, polyamory, and ethical non-monogamy are appearing more often in conversations about modern relationships. For some, these relationship styles feel like a natural fit. For
Curiosity about kink or BDSM can be a powerful part of intimacy and self‑exploration, yet many people feel confused, ashamed, or afraid of judgment when they start to notice these interests. Our culture often sends mixed messages about sexuality, framing kink as risky or unhealthy rather than recognizing it as a valid form of expression
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In sex therapy, one of the first topics that surprises many people is lube—short for lubrication. It might seem like a small detail, something you pick up at a drugstore or forget in a drawer. But in reality, lube can profoundly change how people experience intimacy, connection, and comfort during sexual activity. The Role of
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At Steffen Counseling Services, we are proud to share that our practice owner, Brittany Steffen, LMFT, has officially been approved as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor. This represents years of advanced education, clinical experience, and dedication to helping both clients and clinicians deepen their understanding of sexual health and intimacy. What Is AASECT Sex
Valentine’s Day is marketed as a celebration of love, connection, and intimacy—but for many people, it brings more pressure than pleasure. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, this time of year can amplify feelings of inadequacy, loneliness, or tension as cultural expectations collide with personal realities. The Social Script of Valentine’s Day Each February,
Intimacy in a relationship goes far beyond the physical aspect; it’s about connecting on a deeper level, sharing desires, and respecting boundaries. For many couples, cultivating this level of connection can be both rewarding and challenging—especially when communication patterns, past experiences, or unspoken expectations get in the way. One effective framework that helps partners reconnect
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What is codependency? What does it really mean, and more importantly, how do we start healing from it? The basic description of codependency as losing yourself in someone else. It’s when your identity, your value, and your peace become overly tied to another person—often at the expense of your own needs. If you’ve ever felt
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Sex therapy is a form of therapy aimed at addressing concerns related to sexual health, intimacy, and overall sexual well-being. It involves working with a trained therapist to explore physical, emotional, or psychological issues that might be affecting a person’s or couple’s sexual experiences. While sex is a natural and integral part of human relationships,
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